Giving Kindness Meditation

In this meditation Chris had us invite someone we care about that we can talk to and then offer them some kind words. We were to wish them happiness, health and kindness. Well at first I was a little uncomfortable about choosing just one person, and I began to fuss and fall out of the present. So instead of completely falling behind I invited my whole family to sit at a table and I spoke to them as a unit. Offering them each individually, by making eye contact, this kindness and then together as a unit.  I learned from this meditation that I have to do what is comfortable to me. Just like in the TRIBES rules we have a right to pass maybe in Meditation Rules we have a right to change it to make it more effective for us. I would have lost the whole meditation if I had to pick just one. I would have been constantly battling with why or why not choose someone. So from this realization, for the next meditation I will do right by myself while still following along.

This was our second visual meditation and I found this much more effective. It gave me something to focus on rather than focusing on the people around me. I felt fully present doing this activity and I felt as though this was actually bringing me to life.

The second part of this meditation we had to turn these kindnesses upon ourselves. And I think this is wonderful. We must look out for those around us, but we must all be caring for ourselves or we are of no use for others. At first it was a bit uncomfortable but then I embraced it. I felt as though I was giving myself a pep talk, looking in the mirror getting ready for the day. I think this is a powerful message to give yourself, the message that you like yourself and that you want to do well!

When we came back to the group, I felt buzzed, I felt powerful and rejuvenated. I was shocked to learn that not everyone had the same experience that I had and in reality many people were comfortable with the whole process and shut down. I am glad I heard that, it reminds me that not everyone will have the same comfort levels, not everyone is comfortable with self, others and quiet. So how do I take what I learn to the future? I think if I were to do this exercise I would have to remind people that they can adapt the practice to fit them! As well, I am curious if the more you practice giving and receiving kindness in meditation will become easier?

Check out this video for some positive vibes https://youtu.be/qR3rK0kZFkg